Accepting Self & Others

Self judgement- self condemnation comes from our unacknowledged /unhealed inner pain. We only judge and condemn others from a deep sense of our own inadequacy and self blame.
 Unfavourable comparisons with others (either putting them on a pedestal or putting them down to boost ourselves) comes from low self esteem and drains us of much energy.
 “I’m not good enough” belief results in life actions that are always trying to  compensate; trying to impress, perfectionism, overwork, fear of failure.
 Feelings of self rejection come from tiredness, pain and stress. We only  attack another when we’re in pain ourselves.
 When we’re tired or stressed, these self rejecting thoughts and/or angry  feelings, come to prey on us, robbing us of even more energy.
 A small trigger from another can cause our denied emotional pain to  explode in ways that create much damage in our lives. These negative thoughts/feelings have their source in beliefs that were  programmed into us in our childhood (parents, teachers or peers) and  they do not serve us in any way

I use a combination of several therapeutic interventions to help clients transform self rejection into self acceptance:

Developing the Observer

Responding in new ways to challenging life situations

Taking responsibility for our own emotional pain instead of blaming others

Recognising and dumping the core beliefs that feed our self rejection

Discovering new levels of self expression and confidence

Read articles: The Importance of Self Acceptance
  Taking Responsibility